Many guys really suck when it comes to approaching and talking to girls or women. They get shy or get nervous and lose the situation at a very responsible moment. Today, I will present you with some tricks, tips, real-life examples and advice from dating experts on how to talk to women.
When approaching women, most of the guys start with “Hi, I’m Brian.”
Ok, but what next?
Should you make a joke or comment on something? Say something on her perfume, her look or her movement? Which one would catch her attraction?
Think, dude, think!
Remember that any woman likes Alpha men; they want guys to protect them and not be afraid to even talk. So if you want to find your real love and delve into real relationships, you should change yourself and stop being an introvert (at least show it professionally).
Our Relationships Gurus can help you with this. They created a Guideline on how to talk to any woman in three simple steps.
Follow these steps and perhaps it will help you with your confidence.
Here we go!
STEP 1: What to Do BEFORE Conversation With Women?
First and foremost, keep in mind that women are human. Hot or not, they are as normal human beings as you are. So remember this and DON’T PANIC!
Walk over to her with confidence and slow movements like you’re the owner of the situation. Think of something interesting in mind to start the conversation and catch her attention.
Firstly, start from evaluating her just like she will evaluate you.
If you’ve never had a girlfriend before or you haven’t faced such a situation, this might be a little hard for you.
You may be desperate in this kind of situation and think about “lowering your standards.”
At first, it can seem that it’s quite an effective strategy for you.
Yes, change is good, but no woman likes that you’re not consistent and you’re changing for every woman. Stay loyal to your decision! Don’t prepare yourself for failure.
Secondly, change your mindset to talk to her without expecting anything from her. This will make your job much easier.
Instead of thinking about all that stuff and getting nervous, think of just approaching her, introducing yourself, and have a little fun.
If she gives you her number or even agrees to go out with you, great! But if she doesn’t, that’s okay as well, that’s not the end of the world.
Have fun and enjoy being there at the moment.
Here’s a proven simple trick that I’ve been using to make myself more confident before I try to approach any women. I just walk up to a random stranger, give them a genuine, quick compliment, and then walk away from them.
Sounds quite simple, doesn’t it?
It might even sound a bit weird and make her think of you making her keep you and words in her mind for a while.
Trying to talk to strangers (man, woman, young, old, doesn’t matter who) increases the risk of getting refused and no social rejection.
You may think that it won’t help you in talking to the girl that you desire to talk to. In contrast, by complementing the stranger females makes them feel you’ve brightened their day before disappearing into the night.
Also, this makes you feel less nervous during the first seconds of your conversation, seriously. Try this several times and you’ll notice that you start getting confident in approaching women.
Alright, dude, let’s talk a little about what you’ll actually say to her.
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So How to Start a Conversation With a Girl or a Woman?
The most important thing you should do is create a natural opportunity for face-to-face conversation.
Do your best to position yourself next to the woman you’re interested in. You can do this in various ways (depending on the place, situation, etc.) and there’s no specific way I can advise you.
Here are several examples you could try.
How to Talk to a Woman at a Party (or Social gathering)?
Imagine you’re at the part along with the woman you like (or in love).
If she’s talking to a group of other people, don’t lose yourself! Wait for the most appropriate time: wait for her to break off from them to begin to talk to her.
Alternatively, be brave – introduce yourself to the group and join in the conversation. Delve into the talk before talking to her one-on-one.
Generally, people enjoy meeting other people at parties, so no worries: don’t think that she won’t be interested in talking to you.
If you’re alone with her, don’t keep silent. Talk to her, make her laugh and be funny; women like men with a sense of humor.
For example, you can start your conversation with these phrases:
- “How do you know [a female’s name]?”
- “It might be hard to be so nice and clever at the moment, what do you think?”
- “I’m having a great time! How about you?”
How to Talk to a Woman at Gym?
The gym is one of the perfect places to start a conversation with your girl/woman. Use the situation – make eye contact with her and smile; make her understand you like her.
Remember – every woman has the feeling that a man likes them. Maintain eye contact while she is exercising on one of the machines.
Exercise on the same machine, then “coincidentally” finish up with your workout at the time she finishes with hers.
A perfect time for making the contact! Here are some ways to excel in your approach:
- “I see you working out here a lot. Are you an athlete?”
- “I see you do this exercise easily, I need your advice in 1 tiny thing.”
How to Talk to a Woman at the Dog Park?
Have a dog? Perfect! This is another situation to create a conversation.
Walking your dog can actually help end up next to her and her dog. Wait for some time, let your dog interact with hers and the conversation will begin itself.
In general, women love men who have pets especially dogs. If you have a dog, this means you have the responsibility for another person except you.
One of the best topics for a good conversation can be the health benefits or even veterinarians that take care of dogs.
How to start to talk to her? Here are some examples:
- “Your dog is so cute! What’s his/her name?”
- “Look at that, my dog seems to like you.”, and the conversation will start.
How to Talk to a Woman at the Coffee Shop?
Imagine she’s just ordered her coffee and she’s waiting for it to be made.
What would you do?
Exactly! Stand next to her while waiting for your coffee as well. Or, for example, if she’s already sitting/standing at a table then approach her from aside and stand next to her. This will make the conversation pass more smooth.
Next, open the conversation with something contextual. For instance, you can approach her with cute words on what’ she’s doing at the moment. Take it easy, everything will be fine! 😉
How to Talk to a Woman: Advice from Women Experts
Another way experts advise on opening the conversation is to simply introduce yourself to her. Say “Hi, I’m Brian.”
Also, you can give her a genuine compliment. For example, you can say “I like your shirt/perfume/hair. It looks really cute!”
Women spend a lot of time choosing their outfit. There’s also such a legend when a woman opens her wardrobe and already knows what to wear the next day. 🙂
If you’re already feeling confident, try saying “Hi, I thought you’re really cute and I wanted to invite you for a cup of coffee.” This is a little risky but can make her like you as you’re not a coward.
In a nutshell, experts advise you just one thing – Be Authentic!
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STEP 2: How to Behave DURING Conversation with Women?
After covering the information on what to do and how to behave before the conversation, now let’s explore what to do during the conversation.
Now it’s time to make the conversation more personal and “delve into details”. As Dale Carnegie mentioned in his book called “How to Win Friends and Influence People“, becoming a good communicator involves talking in terms of other people’s language as well as listening to them when they passionately talk about themselves.
Listening to somebody can be quite hard as many people just can’t do that. Listening shows that you’re interested in her life, and beliefs. Ask her some interesting questions, try to find something she would enjoy telling you about herself.
Depending on the context of your conversation, you might be able to find out what she’s interested in. For instance, if you’re meeting her at a coffee shop then you already know that she’s a coffee lover.
On the other hand, you can try just asking her directly what you’re interested in.
For instance, you can just ask her: “What do you like to do in your spare time?” Afterward, whatever her answer is just talk to her.
One of my favorite conversational techniques is to ask “What is your favorite music/travel country/hobby?” After getting the answer, just follow up with “What do you like most about [her answer]?” Continue talking to her about the topic or simply ask her to tell you more.
Be ready that she can ask the same personal questions about you or if you’re lucky even in learning more about you. Also, she can ask you some (if not all) of the same questions you’ve been asking her. Be ready to answer them in the best possible way.
Find a common interest to make a long-term conversation. You’ll feel if she enjoys your talk and lets you in.
One of my close friends is a huge gym enthusiast. He met his girlfriend at a gym when doing running exercises. He then discovered that they had a lot of common interests: reading, dancing, bowling, etc. After some time, they began to build strong relationships.
Okay, you’ve spent some time talking to her and getting to know her a little bit. Do you still find her interesting? Then move forward to meeting and knowing her better.
Good luck! 😉
James is the Founder & CEO of GurusWay.com. Majoring in Business and other life-changing sectors, James covers helpful content and shares his experience with the targeted audience.